Author Topic: Paying respects (Read 1584 times)

123rd Steel Legion · « **on:** April 7, 2003, 06:08:30 AM »

Over the weekend a friend of mine was killed after falling off the back of a ute which then rolled over him, he died on the scene of the crash from severe head and chest injuries.

R.I.P mate I'll miss you

I guess I started this discussion because I want to know what your thoughts are of death and what you think about what do do about stopping people do stupid things with cars.

caramoor · « **Reply #1 on:** April 7, 2003, 06:18:47 AM »

Holy amphetamine parrot man...

Thats pretty heavy. Personally, I've never had anyone that close to me die. Closest person to me to have died was an old guy named charlie whom I loved dearly... about 4 months ago.

Its been 4 months, but thinking about him still like... gives me bated breath.

Scythe · « **Reply #2 on:** April 7, 2003, 07:29:23 AM »

Man Im sorry! How old was the guy and what's his name?

I pretty lucky to have not had anyone I know well die. But if my break ups are not as half as bad as the loss of someone you love well no one let me with in 10m of Knife/Gun or any sharp objects! I transfer all my grief into anger and well it's not pretty.

And again my condolences to the guys family and to his friends. Hope he's in a better place.

123rd Steel Legion · « **Reply #3 on:** April 7, 2003, 07:38:13 AM »

The guy was turning 17 this year and his name was James

I don't know it's just made me angry that such a good bloke was the only one out of the 7 in the car to be hurt.

XfinianX · « **Reply #4 on:** April 7, 2003, 07:57:53 AM »

"Some people, sweet and attractive and strong and healthy, happen to die young. They are masters in disguise teaching us about impermanence" - HH The Dalai Lama

123rd Steel Legion · « **Reply #5 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:02:43 AM »

That pretty sums it up

"Good guys die young"

Mr. Cackle · « **Reply #6 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:15:22 AM »

Wow, that must really hurt. I faced a similar thing with my grandfather being beaten up by armed thugs (luckily, he' still alive) so I kinda feel for you.

Scars · « **Reply #7 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:18:23 AM »

bloody hell, not a painless or honourble way to go. Sorry man.

miclantecuthli · « **Reply #8 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:22:54 AM »

Sorry to hear that. None of my friends died, but a good friend of my younger brother died 7 months ago. I always have to think about him when hearing Eels, he was a big fan and they played "last stop this town" on his funeral.

You're dead but the world keeps spinning
Take a spin trough the world you left
It's getting dark a little too early
Are you missing the dearly bereft?

Taking a flight, and you could be here tomorrow
Taking a flight, well, you could get here tonight

I'm gonna fly on down for the last stop to this town
- what?
I'm gonna fly on down then fly away
- well allright
get down

Takin' a spin through the neighbourhood
The neighbours scream
Whatcha talkin' bout?
'Cause they don't know how to let you in
and I can't let you out

your father is not your only friend in this world
you take me where you 're going if you 're never coming back

I'm gonna fly on down for the last stop to this town
I'm gonna fly on down then fly away
get down

Why don't we take a ride away up high through the neighbourhood
Up over the billboards and the factories and smoke
I'm gonna fly on down for the last stop to this town
- yeah
I'm gonna fly on down and fly away on my way
Fly away
get down

XfinianX · « **Reply #9 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:37:43 AM »

it has been said many times (although different people haven said it in different ways)

"the past has happened - there is nothing you can do to change it, and no amount of mourning will affect that eternal fact. You actions will only affect the present and thos actions in turn will mold future possibilities available to you. The only thing you can gain from the past"

While it is a tragedy that you're friend has died so young, it is an unfortunate truth that he will never live again. However, the greatest tribute you can EVER bestow upon him is to take what experiance you have gained from his interaction with your life and use it to possitive effect.

If you remember his teachings and use them wisely, you will never forget him

and thusly he will live forever in the one place most sacred - your own heart and mind

Scars · « **Reply #10 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:42:50 AM »

Now that was a truely sensless thing to post. If your friend died you would mourn his loss, more over if he wants to go try to raise him from the dead or what have you he is free to do so.

XfinianX · « **Reply #11 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:54:49 AM »

im sorry if my previous post was unclear/seeming insensitive, but having had a fair few people close to me (family and close friends) die in recent years, i am meerly offering my own perpective in dealing with the passing of a loved one...

It would be senseless to say "don't feel upset" - its only naturual to feel such way, but what i am trying to encourage is not letting mourning take over you're life, and to try to reflect upon the knowledge and wisdom a person has passed onto you so you can 'grow' rather than get caught up in grief - Think of it this way - would your friends rather you continue to grieve for a prolonged period and waste your time on a fruitless effort to 'raise them from the dead' when they are qite clearly alive in your memory; or would they rather you get on with you're life and remember the postive effect they had upon you?

while that may sound like a cliche, it holds vast merit...

Scars · « **Reply #12 on:** April 7, 2003, 08:57:19 AM »

my take is you should respect the dead and let them be. A line from song:

"what's done is done and that's the way it had to be"

the grim squeaker · « **Reply #13 on:** April 7, 2003, 02:36:05 PM »

i agree with scars we should respect the died and never forget them

ive lost afew members of my family

but i'll never forget them

Farsear Riddle · « **Reply #14 on:** April 7, 2003, 03:49:38 PM »

Yes Ive been very lucky as far as death is concerned it hasn't touhed anyone really close for over 15 years now, touch wood. Dont know hoe Id cope if I lost someone very close.

the grim squeaker · « **Reply #15 on:** April 7, 2003, 04:17:52 PM »

when it does you have to live with it, its hard but you get used to it.

Poe, the Sociopath · « **Reply #16 on:** April 7, 2003, 04:22:40 PM »

I'm really sorry for you man! Jeez, that makes me soo sad... =( Well always remeber him... Well at least he is in a better place (i surly hope so).

Conspiracy theorist · « **Reply #17 on:** April 7, 2003, 04:30:48 PM »

Remember, but don't let it rule your life.

Farseer Ulthrion · « **Reply #18 on:** April 7, 2003, 04:39:26 PM »

Hello all,

I feel sorry for you man! These are really the times that I don't know what to write, because I have never been forced to go through such a thing.

Like Conspiracy theorist said, Remember, but don't let it rule your life.

Farseer Ulthrion

he who talks to much to be: vidar · « **Reply #19 on:** April 7, 2003, 11:23:23 PM »

i've had a few people die close to me... i hope you whern't holding him when he breathed his last... it seems to make worse night mares...

my thoughts on death are the judeo christian, if you want that expanded pm me. that aside, don't try to squash his memory. enjoy it. he contributed to your life. i don't know exactly how he died but it would seem there was no glory in it. but remember his life thats where his glory was. don't be afraid of his memorys, live with them, though never feel guilty if you realize you havent thought of him in a year... i don't know i hope this helps.

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